Pacaran vs Dating

Harus jalan berapa lama sih biasanya untuk suatu hubungan bisa dibilang pacaran bukan sekedar dating aja?

Apa bedanya dating sama pacaran ya?

I just found out kalau ternyata ada bedanya antara dating sama pacaran, kalau baru dating kita masih bisa jalan dengan yang lain (dengan catatan nggak ketauan sama yang satunya lagi kali ya), nah kalau udah pacaran baru deh one on one relationship. Nah jangka waktu dari dating ke pacaran pun biasanya beda-beda, ada yang 1 bulan udah langsung pacaran atau ada juga yang udah dating 3 bulan baru ada omongan pacaran yiukk…

Omongan pacaran ini juga bukan cuma milik anak baru gede or anak-anak remaja pada umumnya, tapi ternyata berlaku juga di kalangan kita (kalangan mature maksudnya). Tapi omongannya mungkin bukan kayak jaman dulu yang di tembak “mau gak kamu jadi pacar gw?” tapi lebih subtle lagi. Misalnya, dia nggak akan nanya gitu tapi biasanya dia mulai bikin plan jangka sedang dalam artian next week end kita kesana yuk or next week end kita ngapain yuk, nah itu berarti ada tanda-tanda lampu hijau kalau dia mulai masukin kita ke dalam kegiatannya.
Or bisa juga dia mulai nyebut kita “my girlfriend” di depan temen-temennya or pas ngenalin kita sama temen-temennya. Misalnya “gw lagi sama pacar gw nih, or kenalin nih pacar gw”

Soalnya nggak semua cowo akan pede untuk nanya langsung ke kita mau nggak kita jadi pacarnya, taruhannya harga diri bow kalau ditolak hehehe…. Dan lagi biasanya untuk umuran kita kayaknya bisa diliat dari tingkah lakunya dia ke kita gimana, use all your senses untuk bisa ngerasain whether he’s sincere or faking it.
Ada juga cowo yang ngerasa nggak perlu lah ada omongan pacaran segala macem, selama ini kan apa yang gw lakuin udah mean something, mean dia care dan suka sama kita, belum sayang or cinta loh. Dan mungkin juga bagi sebagian cowo ngerasa kalo pacaran itu pasti banyak aturan makanya some of them mungkin prefer to keep it like that aja or istilah kerennya HTI.

Nah biasanya kalau udah ada kesepakatan pacaran emang akan ada aturan-aturan main yang berlaku.
Misalnya:
- harus selalu ijin satu sama lain kalau mau pergi, kalo nggak di ijinin ya nggak pegi or tetep pegi tapi colongan :))
- selalu update kalo mau kemana-mana
- matanya nggak boleh “belanja” lagi
- ada yang ngurusin kalo kita sakit
- ada yang bayarin kalo makan :)). Biasanya kalo masih dating nggak papa BS-BS tapi once udah pacaran kalo makan ya di tanggung cowo dong ah hehehe
- week end harus selalu barengan, wakuncar malem minggu gitu masih berlaku gak seh?
- Mm.. bingung apa lagi ya, secara udah lama nggak pacaran hehehe, well apapun aturan yang berlaku tetap harus atas persetujuan kedua belah pihak, karena tujuannya pacaran kan memang saling mengenal dan harus dilandasi oleh kepercayaan dan kejujuran.

Well anyway, kalau udah ada kesepakatan baru deh go public ke temen-temen deket dan lingkungan luas biar pada tau kalau kita taken hahahaha… hmmm.. yang ini gw masih bingung pointnya untuk apa, mungkin biar kita juga nggak “belanja” kali ya :)

Ternyata pacaran enak juga ya, ... walopun banyak yang bilang single lebih enak yiuukkk....

Love is everywhere

Just read Wenni's blog, I agree with her that love can be in everywhere. You can find love in school society, colleagues, friend of a friend of a friend, club, party, neighbour, even in internet by online chatt.

Yes, I know some success stories bout couple who met online and now they live happily ever after as husband and wife. My ex colleague now lives in Canada with her husband, and yes they met online :)
I also know other couple who met online and now still together and seems going stronger everyday, like this girl.

I know this girl is having some kind of long distance relationship with the guy she never meet, she knows this guy from some love/dating online something and they keep in touch since then. They even make a regular call, he calls her and vice versa, and also he told her that he wants to marry her and ask her to come to US. He even told her to apply VISA and he will send her some money bla bla bla...

Being a nice girl, she believes all that. She even claimed that she's seeing him at the moment... I just hope that he told her the truth and i'm happy for her if they are for real.

What is the definition of seeing someone? How can you know someone that you haven't meet? Looking back to my experience, people still can lie to you eventhough you live close by and seeing them everyday (happen to cheated husband).
It's not like i'm skeptical about long distance relationship, but I believe that if you want to have a success long distance relationship the foundation should be strong enough to overcome all obstacles, coz infidelity often comes along the way and become big problem.

For sure, i will not believe instantly on what people say online coz people tend to say things they want people to hear/know, so it might not be the real thing and becareful of freak people out there.

But, I will not say no and reject to the online thing coz it's fun anyway to have many online friends and also maybe there is some slight opportunity for me to meet my Mr. Bond or Mr. Kent ;)

Circle of life

Been so busy lately, have no time to update my blog, even i have no time to sleep. Yeah, the work really pushed me to the limit, i stayed at the office till 3 AM in the morning for 2 days in a row. That's not a life... But hey that's a life in advertising agency though :)

And here I am, writing blog from the office... What a life lol...

A life in advertising agency would be like this:
- got call from client at early morning (yes 8 AM is very early for us, especially if we stayed till 2 AM at work), asking whether we can make the presentation 1 day earlier which is the next day wtf...., . Please give us some mercy dear clients -- oopss, no offense ya Ceu hihihi
- have the whole day meeting from 10 AM to 6 PM at client's office, and then back to the office to do some work, no social life for us :))
- got call from client to brief us on something and they want us to present the material by tomorrow, helloowww... we're not magician here
- have some "hot" discussion with creative team, there are things that we know what client would react on certain things guys, but you won't listen to us, and then when the client told you exactly the same thing like we did, you listen to them.. My oh My...
- waiting in vain when creative team do the work, why waiting in vain? yes because if they're not in the mood to do some stuff then we're fucked :))
- fight for the super tight deadline, c'mon guys be realistic.. it really makes me stress out
- come to the office on weekend to supervise some stuff just because the President Director didn't like our proposed POS which already approved by his team, and the President Director wants to see all 22 items on monday, hell yeahhh.. since when the President Director is taking care of POS material, don't you have better things to do mister Dutch lol

Ok, maybe you think that a life in advertising agency is that bad, it's not actually. It's only the other side of the full life. I met interesting people and good friends because we're in the same field.

But the acknowledgement of your work is priceless, it's like worth the hassle and the stress. That's why i still in this business, and for sure the money covers all my expenses lol

Confession of fine ladies

@ 12.30 - 1 am

sms out: I feel lonely

sms in: since last week end, I feel so damn lonely, not alone. I guess we miss feeling needed and loved

sms out: hmm… we have the same feeling lol. Maybe it’s typical feeling for single women at our age

sms in: yes, Wita feels the same way too, we just talked bout it last night. Nature’s calling we should be with someone permanently.

sms out: yes we want to be with someone, but what can we do if we haven’t found the right one?

sms in: why is it hard for us to find the right one? why is it hard for us to open our heart, i'm sad.

sms out: maybe we need a closure, so that we can open our heart.

sms in: what closure? in my case, i did the closure, case close.

sms out: Or maybe, we have too high standard and criteria for our man? But, are we willing to lower down our benchmark just for the sake of getting it fast?

sms in: it’s hard… well, maybe we have to learn to accept of what God’s planned for us

Late night conversation with my dear friend Wenni. Yes, maybe we miss feeling needed, we miss feeling loved and we miss the feeling of sharing with someone close to our heart :)

The simple life

After 3 days in row attended FGD (Focus Group Discussion for whom don’t know what is FGD), something struck me.

The respondents are stayed home mom with kids, 1st and sequential kids (read: 2nd or 3rd kid). I’m an observer kind of person, I like to observe people so that I know how to react in front of them and also I like to guess their reaction toward something. So I like to observe their conversation before the session begins, coz for me that is the real and honest conversation among them.

Here are things I learn bout them:
- They have to make sure that their babies have the right nutrition by feeding them the right products. Entry point for my brand
- They have to make sure that the house will look neat by the time their hubby come home after hard work at the office, they want to pleased their hubby by showed to him that she can take care of everything
- They have to make sure that all the bills are paid on time. Husband is working and wife manages the money.
- Groceries shopping can be their pleasant entertainment from boring routine, but sometimes they can not enjoy it too as they have to make sure that their home or baby is alright while they’re gone.
- “Me time” is playing time with the baby

For sure they will not have these kinds of things: no deadline pressure, no angry boss, no bitchy clients, no stubborn creative, no failed creative output, no decrease sales and etc.

As a housewife they live their life in a simple way. But, is it that simple? Is there a simple life for anyone?

I want to have it, if there is such a thing :)

Will you marry me?

That is probably the best question that every women want to hear. Yes, at some point, we women want to settle down, have children and live happily ever after with the man we love or I would call the love of my life :)

But we also made some mistake by marrying someone just because we got pressure from family, friends and society, and also we think that in certain age we are old enough to get marry no matter if we are not ready mentally.

I know this girl for 10 years, and the latest news I heard was that she’s getting married with this man (Mr. A). They have different religion, well some of you might think that it’s not a really big deal and some might say that it is a big deal, especially if your big family is fanatic to one religion.

Well, I will not talk about the different religion here. What really shocked me was the reason behind why she decided to marry him. Actually, she expects the other guy (Mr. B) to marry her but he never pop up that question (yes, she managed to get involve with 2 guys at the same time, don’t ask me how J). As she reach 30 y.o this year, She decided to get married with Mr. A, even though her heart belongs to Mr. B, because Mr. A is the one who pop up the question. She once told me that she wants to have the ideal marriage of same religion under one roof; she doesn’t want to repeat her own experience by came from mix religion in the family. But now, she is willing to sacrifice her own will so that she can marry before 30. She also thinks that she has to get married coz her inner circle has married as well, she doesn't want to feel left behind.

It got me thinking, is that a strong reason to marry someone?

For me, marriage is a big thing, and also a gambling thing. You never know what would happen along the way during the marriage itself. Some people who got married in the name of love can not survive their marriage and divorced.

But my mom meets my dad only 2 months before they got married. Being a good child, my mom accepted what was asked for to do by my grand parents. And my parents live happily ever after, until my dad passed away 12 years ago and my dad was my mom love of her life.

So, is there an exact and strong reason to begin a marriage? So that we can survive our marriage, till death do us part.

Acceptance

I feel much better now, after analyzed it over the night about the pro and cons, I wasn’t as mad as yesterday yeahh.. still have that feeling but try to minimize it though.

Yes, I am disappointed, yes I am sad, yes I am angry, yes I feel rejected, and yes I wish this isn’t happening to me.

Actually I got what I want though, it’s only last Tuesday I mentioned to my close friends that I miss multinational client, somehow they are different with local client (no offense my local clients J) and after my meeting at Surabaya I wanted it even more. And now I got my multinational client, blessing in this new arrangement. “Be careful with what you wish for”

My biggest disappointment is the unfair situation and the unfair arrangement. I expecting him to be the big guy for all of us, place we can count on to hang on but he disappointed me, badly. But there’s nothing I can do for subjective judgment though.

Should I hate whoever caused this situation? Does hate is the right word to describe my feeling? For now, I don’t know the answer.

I won’t act like a saint or an angel like nothing is wrong with this situation and I’m ok with it, I’m not gonna lie but somehow it will affect our friendship in the future, sadly to say. But I’m going to be the big person here, nothing personal let’s stick to professionalism and life goes on.

I’m only human after all, I have feelings, not always positive feeling though, I have my own frustration, my own thought about the situation. But since this is happening to me, what I could do is accepting this as part of the path that I have to go thru.

It sucks for sure, but then again acceptance is the keyword. What I can do is trying to get the best out of this situation.

Maybe God has another plans for me, and whatever it is, surely He knows what best for me :)

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WTF!!!!

This isn’t happening to me, Gosh please tell me that this is not happening to me…..

It finally happens, the day that I got the official news....

I am so fucking mad of the situation, I shouldn’t get this, and this is not fucking fair!!!!

Feels like i wanna punch someone!!!

A theory that is Vato Theorem

I was there with this man and his buddy when they're talking bout this theory and gather all the facts, so i'm still part of it rite.. ;) They even planned to make movie and book about this theory and it's my obligation to publish it in my blog so it will get more exposure :)

You decide, whether he's nuts or maybe some of you will think it might be true but it is scary thing.....
For me, he's just being him :)

Interesting to read tho... enjoy....

Actually, this has been long time coming. Therefore this particular post will be quite long, so please bear with me or type another URLand move on with your day.

Some said that if you discover something, the sooner you publish itthe better. Otherwise, someone else will stake a claim to it first, and you'll end up cursing yourself for the "loss of potential gain" for the rest of your life. And now, with this thing called blogging, obviously anyone anywhere can publicly declare anything they want, anytime.Let's see whether this medium will stand the test of time and beour testament to where thoughts can be cast in stone, erm, pixels? It has arguably proven the founder of the ":)" symbol (first recordedback in 1982, with the solid proof defined in 2002), you know.

I should have posted this sometime in 2005 though. Procrastination got the better of me, as always.

Am I loony enough to predict that the human civilization as we know it shall end sometime in the year 4008 AD? Maybe I am. Forget 2012 AD declared by the Mayans, it is 4008 AD (Note to clients/employers: you're entitled to worry about this twisted side of me :D)

4008 AD, a simple number derived from loosely identifying patternin chaos, mostly from highly unpredictable sports statistics (to backthis sh*t up, am lucky enough to have a Biff Tannen-esque living sports almanac as a best friend). Indeed, am taking a huge risk with this theory, going against an opinion by Helen Joyce on the dangers of spotting patterns in random things www.open2.net/moreorless/coincidence1.html

Why 4008 AD?

Because 2004 AD is what the Vato Theorem shall define as The Midpoint of Time. The year when everything comes full circle and curses/streaks are broken. Everything returned to where it allstarted. Few major examples from en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2004_in_sports,

Summer Olympics returns to Athens, site of the first modern Summer Olympics in 1896

Boston Red Sox win the World Series for the first time since 1918, breaking the Curse of the Bambino

Detroit Pistons win NBA Finals, a rematch from 1989 when they also beat the Los Angeles Lakers for the title

New England Patriots win the Super Bowl again, after winning it for the first time in 2002

Greece beat host nation Portugal to win Euro 2004 with a 1 – 0 score, a rematch of the opening game of this tournament when they also beat Portugal with the exact same score

Also,

Michael Schumacher wins the last of his 7 F-1 titles in a row

Vijay Singh replaces Tiger Woods at the top of the world rankings,ending Woods' reign of five years and four weeks

In another note, 2004 AD was also the year a president named George Bush lead a nation at war.

Locally, Golkar returns to win General Election.

Coincidence, you say? Given this many examples, it's pretty doubtful. Why did all the above occurences pick 2004 AD as the moment for them to return to their original state? No other year in recorded history has this many "coincidences", I believe.

More examples to come, on this twisted prophecy. Hereby I boldly declare that year 2004 AD was arguably the peak of humanity, hence everything has been going downhill from that moment on ward. The growth of acceleration declining to zero, returning to innocence.

If am lucky enough to be cryogenically frozen sometime in the future (and this blog still exists, or in someone's back-up tape), will someone unfreeze me should we safely reach Jan 1st, 4009?

S E V E N

Whoaa aku dapet tugas dari Wenni dan Miund ini dia sekelumit tentang diriku... ini yang fact about me harus 7 ya gak bisa lebih? kayaknya banyak banget fact about me hehehe

7 Facts About Me
1. Seneng ketawa, seneng tidur, seneng makan
2. Sunda banget, segala dedaunan dimakan hihihi
3. Stubborn
4. Love being loved
5. Pengen bisa terbang kayak Superman jadi gampang kalo mau kemana2 ga kena macet haha
6. Jutek judes dan galak sama orang yang disuka dan gak berusaha nutupin
7. Sensitif dan sering banget nangis kalo nonton film (sstt don’t tell anyone ya)

7 Cita-cita
1. Menemukan Mr. Right dan menghabiskan sisa hidup bersamanya
2. Jadi orang yang selalu bahagia
3. Buka pastry shop or florist (duh kok nggak gw banget yak)
4. Ikutan Amazing Race, lemme know if anybody wanna be my team mate :D
5. Pengen kerja diluar negeri
6. Jadi penari latarnya Madonna or JLO gitu seru kali ya hahahaha
7. Dapet surga dunia dan akhirat, amien

7 Tempat yang pengen didatengin
1. Vienna
2. Greece
3. Ibiza
4. Maldives
5. Prague for some reasons ;)
6. Paris
7. South Carolina for some reasons too :)

7 Tempat enak buat makan
1. Rumah nyokap, top abisss dah
2. Sushi Tei (mana ada lagi tempat sushi enak dan murah)
3. Bugils (spaghetti tuna-nya gak ada duanya deh, sedappp)
4. Cazbar (must try mango squid saladnya)
5. Keyaki (warjep deket rumah gw, enak dan murah, sayang udah pindah ga tau kemana, ada yang tau ga mereka sekarang ada dimana????)
6. Dimana aja as long as sama orang yang aku sayang.. hmm...
7. Hu’u Bar.. suasannya romantis bangeeett yang di outdoor.. ahh jadi pengen kesana

7 Ucapan terimakasih
1. God the almighty atas segala rahmat dan rizki yang udah diberikan
2. My greatest mom
3. My grandma, without her surely i won’t be here rite ;)
4. My inner circle, thanks for always be there for me guys
5. Pecipta HP dan yang nemuin internet, life is soo easy coz of these 2 items
6. The wealthies yang punya club dan bar dan segala isinya (alcohol, chemical, weeds, hot men), hey we need to pamper ourself once in awhile rite ;)
7. To life.. yeah I’m so thankful of my life :)

7 orang yang harus ngerjain tugas ini juga...
1. Keke
2. Anita
3. Aryaaa
4. Farika
5. Wita
6. Adri
7. Sim