Monday, November 20, 2006

Being single vs being in a relationship

I got this topic from someone's blog, and it's quite attracted me in some way :)

The grass in neighbor’s garden is always greener right? It seems that whenever you are in a relationship you say that you feel sorry for single people while under your breathe you say, "I wish." Single people seem to have all this freedom yet, suffer from being lonely all of the time. Or if you are single, then you will longing to have someone to share to and wish that you’re in the relationship now.
What’s the deal? Which is better? Well, you tell me.

These are things most people do it if they are in a relationship or not. The question is, who enjoys it the most?
1. Going to Bars
(a) When you are single: You are free to flirt with the opposite sex. There are no eyes on you that will make you feel guilty about what you are doing and who you are talking too. You can dress anyway you want, you can talk to anyone you want. And if you get really wasted? There is no one for you to fight with. And if you get laid that night, it could be that fun and exciting, "I have no idea who the fuck this is kind of sex."
(b) When you are in a relationship: You always have someone to dance with, drink with, and talk too.You are almost guaranteed sex that night. You know where you are going at the end of the night and there is always someone there to take care of you when you are done.

2. Watching TV or Movies
(a) When you are single: You don't fight over the remote control. You don't have to watch sports if you are a girl or American Idol if you are a guy. Men don't have to be burdened with chick flicks and women don't get stuck watching action movies.
(b) When you are in a relationship: You have someone to snuggle with. You can laugh together, and talk about the movie or show with someone. You may even see a movie that you loved that you might have never taken a second glance at if you weren't with someone.

3. Sleeping
(a) When you are single: You get the whole fucking bed to yourself. No one snoring, hogging the covers, or doing the unnecessary over cuddle strangling you from getting a good nights sleep. You wake up when you wake up, and you go to bed when you want to go to bed.
(b) When you are in a relationship: You can cuddle. You feel the security of someone else in your bed. You have someone there to get you water, or scratch you back. And lets not forget the spoon and grind when you first wake up in the morning.

4. Shopping
(a) When you are single: You go to your stores. You go for as long or as short as you want to. You try on whatever you want and you don't have someone second guessing your decision or more importantly, how much you are spending
(b) When you are in a relationship: You have someone to keep you company. You have someone to bounce ideas off of. You can make sure that your significant other doesn't buy stuff that makes them look stupid, and you might have someone there to help you keep your spending in check.

5. Sex
(a) When you are single: Each time is like the first time. You are being touched, kissed, and banged in a different way every time. Its new, its exciting, and you don't have to deal with all of the emotional baggage that comes with being with
(b) When you are in a relationship: This is your person. They know you and your body. You don't have to worry about who they have been with, how to please them, or if they are going to be there in the morning.

It doesn't matter if you are single or with someone. There are undeniable advantages in certain situations where being one is better than the other.
So my question to you is this. 1-5 what would you rather be in that circumstance and why?


Anonymous said...

Ehehe Ecky... Ok , i take up the plunge and answer to your question ( having been in both conditions more than one time...)

Definitely better being single.Going with your partner can generate unppleasant situation , especially if he/she is a jealous person.

Hmm.. I am not a tv watcher.. So ok relationship

When i was younger i was far more intolerant... Now i like having someone sleeping with me , even if she snores...( girls too do it..)
advantages listed far make do for inconveniences..Ladies reading : one bedplace available .. Call me at +39 .... ..... :-)

Single. Shopping with women is really hard... My former gf brought me from one mall to the other one in Jakarta..Actually they are the places i know best over there are Malls...

Hemm... Relationship. In my own experience it's rare having great sex the first time. Chemical attraction can make it work fine anyway on the first time but, as much as you know your partner's needs and prefeences ,things get much better.

Ok.. i'm curious to read some ladies' answer...


Anonymous said...

1.Bars: SINGLE! It is so fun dancing and chattn with random people with out feeling guilty...
2.Tv: I dont watch much tv...
3.Sleeping: Single. HE snores! Ugh...and I value my sleep!
4.Shopping: Single. It's my me time!
5.Sex: I am hoping relationship sex turns out to be better, but I have had some amazing random hook-up sex!

Anonymous said...

it seems like the only difference between being single or in a relationship, is not cuddling vs cuddling.

pisceswolf said...

I'm sad to see you went purely heterosexist in this article. You could have made it more gender neutral.

Unknown said...

I think only the watching tv bit was heterosexist..

Unknown said...

Boom... the being with someone part is all bull crap its only like that for the first year or so.. after that its all completely opposite.. i have yet to find someone that is willing to do these things after a couple years.. it gets boring and old.. being single is the best.. do what you want when you want.. and who you want! period...

jumira-wings said...

I think an important factor that has been left out so far is personality type...of both you and the partner.

I myself am an independent type and judging from my dating experience versus being single, I definitely like being single WAY better than a relationship.

One of my best friends, on the other hand, is very emotional and romantic. She LOVES having a boyfriend. She does just about everything with her boyfriend and they are very happy together.

This single vs. relationship debate probably depends on a lot more things, too but I wanted throw out personality type as my two cents.

women pheromones said...

Well,for me single or with a relationship its not an issue it doesn't matter to me.


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Anonymous said...

well honestly i would give up all you mentioned for someone i love and in a relation

Anonymous said...

hahaha i like your comment anon hahah

Anonymous said...

i agree with you.. i cn give up too just for my love. we people have many reactions abou our lives .. we get fucked but not all the times ..dont be so BITTER