Thursday, December 06, 2007

The right thing to say

Had YM conversation at 1 am with my ex colleague, she informed me that she's single again...

Another divorce story from someone I know.

Honestly, I don't know how to react when I heard the news, and I just said politely "I'm sorry to hear that, are you Ok?"

If you hear the news about someone passed away, you probably will say condolence "I'm sorry and bla bla bla bla....", you will said it instantly without any hesitation or thinking hard what to say.

But if you hear someone just divorced what is the right thing to say?

Maybe the right thing to say is sorry but what if the divorce debutante doesn't feel sorry at all, maybe they feel relieved or free or even happier with the new situation.

3 comments:

Anita said...

I think "I'm sorry to hear that, are you ok?" is appropriate. If she feels happier she will say so and then you could ask if there' anything you could do to help her going through this.

Silverlines said...

Maybe, along the line of ... "Is it something to celebrate or can I offer you a hug?" kind of message?

parvita said...

"Sorry to hear that, are you ok?" is appropriate.