Thursday, January 24, 2008

How To Get Over Being Left Out

Everyone gets left out sometimes. . Whether it be by best friends, new friends, or boyfriends. Here's how to deal with it.


Steps
  1. Try and become involved with people by asking "What are you doing this weekend?" or "Would you like to go to the movies with me?"
  2. If these people don't want to hang out, find other people to be friends with. The only way to make friends is by getting out and talking to people.
  3. If you cannot, then make other plans; get yourself occupied with something else. You can try the relaxation method, which would be to take a long bath, and make it really really nice with bubbles and everything. Also try watching a happy TV show. You can try the "busy" approach,which is by occupying yourself with jobs, like baby sitting. It would truly get your mind off the thing you're excluded from.
  4. Plan events for the future. Do not exclude your friends that didn't invite you, but just invite other people. It'll surprise them and show them that you have other friends, too.
  5. Do what makes you happy. Try self indulging, like get your hair or nails done. Go shopping. Do something that will make you feel better about yourself.
Tips
  • Remember, you don't want to be with the same people all the time. Meet new people and don't always be "in their face."
  • If you can't figure out what's wrong, and if you need to change something, ask people who see you every day. Get multiple opinions. Have the people write down what they think, then compare lists. It's always a good idea to ask. Who knows? You might find someone who won't make you feel left out.
Warnings
  • Decide why people won't hang out with you. Is there a reason? Something you can change?
  • Don't think there is anything wrong with you because someone doesn't feel like seeing you. It doesn't mean they don't like you or are being cruel. If, however, they keep doing it talk to them.
Being left out sucks, hope above tips can help you get over it. If your friends don't want to hang out with you then it's their lost not yours.

5 comments:

GJ said...

If they don't want to hang with you or leave you out of their plans, I don't think you can call them "friends". Time to move on there are plenty of good people around.
Cheers
GJ

Miss Lai Lai said...

You know what, this post hits me (to some extent) at the right spot. Mind you, in my case, I just go "fishing and be back in 3 days" (read: go into my hybernation and just get out of the loop).

V. Melly Limengan-Chendrainy said...

Good tips. It is always easy to have friends for party and hang out but to have friend wwho will stand by us is not too many. Time will tell us who worth to call friend and others are just some people we call acquintance.

Great commitment Ecky for your blog. Now, I check it almost everyday.

Riadi said...

yeah...I have experience this before..and just like your tips, ti really works.Now I don't need to be afraid of being left out. nice post :)

mama's got moxie said...

great tips!! :)